Sometimes we just need someone to say, "Hey, you're okay. It's all going to be okay."
I'll tell you - You're okay, you're more than okay - you are a divine creation of God. Too many times we let other people's opinions influence how we see ourselves. You're not alone - I've done it, and will probably do it again but I'm getting better at catching myself before it gets out of hand. We seek validation from other people in areas that we feel the weakest and personally, I think that's okay. It only becomes a problem when you think you are less than without that validation. When someone says you look nice, did a good job at work, made them feel special, listened to them or helped them in some way, smile and say thank you. It's nice to hear but it's something we should tell ourselves all of the time. There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking in the mirror and saying, "Damn girl, you look good." There isn't anything wrong with patting yourself on the back for everything that you've accomplished and feel good about.
People will hurt you. That's a given fact in life but we hurt ourselves more by letting it continue. Do this: draw your line in the sand, step back and say, "No more." Don't make it about them, make it about YOU. You're choosing to make the best decision for you. The most eye opening question I had posed to me this week was, "Why do you want to let someone who doesn't want you occupy your thoughts and your time?" "Because I want this person to want me and care about me." "Why? What's this person done for you to make you feel that way?" Ah. ha. Absolutely nothing. Other than feel needed in a kind of sick used way - absolutely nothing. People change, sometimes without explanation and we have to be able to adapt and adjust to what our needs are. It's not being selfish. Not at all. Did you ever consider that God and the universe have something better for you and that you needed to be able to stand up and shout, "I deserve something better!" People come in and out of our life all of the time. Yes, perhaps you are wonderful, kind, and giving to everyone you meet and even though it may not be reciprocated, it doesn't mean that somewhere along the road it won't have that positive influence on them. Maybe they'll stop and consider that they can have something better too and people aren't all the same. You may never know what change you'll make in their life, but also consider what change they've made in yours. Be thankful for everyone you meet, even if they hurt you because they're teaching you what you do and do not want. They're teaching you to be stronger and resilient and to appreciate those in your life who love you and think you're the bomb. :) Which you are by the way...
Making mistakes doesn't make you a failure. Failure is giving up. Don't give up, it's going to be okay and you're okay now - you just have to see it.
